College is a Waste of Time – Spoken by a Lifelong Learner

“Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” – Jim Rohn
I’m nearly 30 years old, and for most of my life I have been in school. As a little one, I was in preschool for two years before kindergarten.After I graduated from high school, I’ve managed to sprinkle in 16 semesters of college education. If you know much about college, you know that equals 8 years of college and well over the amount of credits one needs to graduate with a Bachelor’s degree, however, transferring schools and transferring programs means that I’m still an undergraduate. With that being said, I have instructors that are younger than me! It’s crazy, but that’s not the problem I have with them. The problem I have with college instructors can best be summed up by a recent quote from one of them:

“I should point out that for Explorations, the highest achievable grade is B+, as there isn’t the scope in those assignments to exceed the requirements for assessment in each case.” – Instructor

In that class we have an exploration assignment due each week, a midterm, and a final. Can you see a flaw in the grading structure here? If I get a B+ on every weekly assignment, that gives me a “perfect” grade for that part of the course, but it’s still only a B+! Perhaps this quote from another instructor would be a better representation of the decline in education:

“I’m not here to teach you. I’m here to grade your work. I give you an assignment and it is your responsibility to figure our what you need to learn in order to complete the assignment. Then it is up to you to learn it, complete the assignment, and turn it in on time.” -Instructor

I don’t think it would be so hard, if the assignments actually had detailed instructions, if the instructor made it clear what he expected, or if when we received a poor grade on an assignment, he told us why.

In my English class we have three papers to write for the entire semester. The grade we receive on the ROUGH DRAFT – which is graded as if it is a final draft – has just as much weight on our final semester grade as does the final paper. We turned in our rough draft, and the final was due two weeks later. The day the final was due, the instructor finally gave us back our rough drafts and extended the final deadline by ONE DAY!

I struggle each day to decide what to do for my business. I struggle to prioritize my life because I still want to do pretty much everything. In addition to being a full-time student, I am also a full-time wife and a full-time business owner. Currently, I am dealing with Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS) which is a form of orthostatic intolerance that is associated with the presence of excessive tachycardia on standing. Many POTS patients experience low blood pressure on standing, fatigue, headaches, lightheadedness, heart palpitations, exercise intolerance, nausea, diminished concentration, tremulousness (shaking), syncope (fainting), coldness or pain in the extremities, chest pain and shortness of breath. If that wasn’t enough, I’m also recovering from a brain surgery in March which effected my balance as well as my ability to do normal every day tasks. The hardest part of this recovery was learning to walk again. We wouldn’t want to leave out the fact that I have extreme back difficulties for a 29 year old woman. For this, I go to 1.5 hours of therapy 4 times a week. So, as you can tell, I’m a very busy lady.

The truth of the matter is being this busy is not working for me. It is far too stressful, and we all know that when you are trying to regain your health, extreme stress is not going to help. We can’t always dictate what our health will do. Sure, we can eat healthy, exercise, and take care of ourselves, but sometimes or bodies just do their own thing. the best thing we can do about it though is keep working to make it better, continue going to therapy, eating right, exercising, and treating our bodies well, so for obvious reasons I can’t get rid of that from my life right now.

Another area of life that requires attention is the fact that I am a full-time wife. Relationships require work and love in order to grow. It’s important for me to spend time nurturing my marriage and spending time with my husband. He deserves that! Part of this nurturing requires that I put in just as much effort around our house as he does. It’s not fair to expect him to mow the yard, do the dishes, clean the clothes, vacuum the floors, take care of the dogs, take out the trash, and cook the meals. We are partners and therefor we work together to keep the relationship and our home maintained. I can’t alleviate this from my life either.

Last week my husband and I talked about my business. We discussed what our life goals were and what needed to happen to accomplish those goals. For us, Pretty Much is one of the most important pieces of my life right now. It is the one piece that makes the most sense and makes me the most happy.Despite the business taking a lot of love, dedication, time, and work, it seems to be a stress reliever more than a stress creator. Owning and operating Pretty Much keeps me sane and makes me feel good. It’s such an important part of my life, and of our future that I would be crazy to cut it out of my life right now.

This brings us back to the talk of school. I’m supposed to devote 10 hours a week per class. That’s 40 hours a week devoted to school. Normally, I wouldn’t have a problem with this expectation, however, that number doesn’t even come close to the amount of work that I have to put in. Last week I was required to create a 108 page document for one class in one week. It took me 20 hours just to work on that class, and I still had three other classes to work on. Did I learn anything from creating that document? nope! That’s when I realized that school is taking up way too much of my time and not giving me anything back. I’m not really learning anything, and it causes way too much stress. It needs to go.

So for me, I’ve decided that right now in life, college is a waste of my time. I’ve decided that this will be my last semester for a while. The crazy thing is that several of my classmates have actually said the same thing. At least I don’t feel so bad.

The great news is that this means tons more time to focus on Pretty Much! Hooray! I’m so excited because that means that I am about to have a ton of time to make pretty things! I’m about to have time to blog, create pre-made party details, develop some new stationary collections, and even start making some videos. I cannot wait for this new era to begin with Pretty Much. On Tuesday, I’ll be sharing a bit more about upcoming plans, so come back and find out more!


Keep Calm and Update my Facebook Status

Keep Calm and Chive OnThis anticipation is killing me! I was all prepared to leave the house at 11:00 this morning. Wow, was even ready early and sat down at my computer to play for a bit at 10:20. This is unusual for me. At 10:30 I called the surgical center to verify everything was running on time and we would be good to go. Ugh, they delayed me another hour, but said I should call before I leave again, in case they delay me longer. So, I have some time to play, to think, and do burn.

First thing I decided to do was post a picture to twitter of my outfit. I mean it’s a really serious decision I had to make today: what to wear to brain surgery! HAHA. I finally made up my mind and decided to wear yogo pants because clearly they are the most comfortable thing a woman can wear, but I did not choose just any yoga pants; I wore my KCCO chivette yogo pants because when you are about to have somebody shave your head and crack open your skull, any reminder to Keep Calm and Chive on is quite helpful. Additionally, I wore a sports bra because it’s way easier to put that on when I get go home. Bonus: It’s one of my favorite colors – turquoise, and it looks like a tank top. Next a wore a white racer-back tank top because I love tank tops and can’t do without them, plus, it makes me feel pretty due to the lace and my lack of makeup today. It doesn’t matter than nobody will actually see the lace because it is only on the back and I am wearing yet another layer over it! Lastly, I have my zip-up KCCO hoodie. I love hoodies, they are comfy, and cute, and relaxed, and of course just one more reminder that I should just keep calm.

So now that the important decisions have been made for the day, I have begun to think about all the amazing people in my life who have been there for me in all of this. I have my husband sho takes care of me, understands that life sucks in this state, and does whatever he can to make it all easier. I have my mother who keeps telling me to settle down because it’s all going to be fine, plus she is coming out to visit me. I have my grams and gramps who let me call them a lot and tell them everything as it develops, plus they listen patiently. I have my sister that tells me I’m fine. I have my other grandma, and my friends, Mary Beth and Heather who have text or called to wish me well. There is my cousin Chelsea we text me as well. Then there are my friends Kami, Tyler, and Joel who prayed with me last night. And I cannot possibly forget all the amazing friends that have sent me Facebook messages, commented, sent their love and their prayers. I have such an amazing support system and I know that I am very lucky!

The last thing I have to think about today is the surgery itself. I know a lot of people can be nervous to go under because they fear they may not wake up. I have been that person in previous surgeries, but for some reason, today, I have no fear that I will wake up. I know I will. For a while I feared the worst outcome of the surgery though – either losing the ability to move the left side of my face to include smiling, or to loose my hearing completely in my left ear. They ask you a million times if you are sure that you understand the risks and if you are sure that your symptoms are debilitating enough that you really feel like you have to have surgery or if it would just be easier to live with the symptoms. Trust me, I have questioned my answers many times. I can drive short distances – like less than 20 and I have a husband to drive me longer ones while I dope up on motion sickness medication. I could always just never exercise anymore and eat hardly anything to keep my figure. I could just take Xanax for the rest of my life to prevent my panic attacks and noise associated with the tinnitus…or I can just get the surgery and actually function again fully in the way that i did before. Alright, surgery is the right choice. Now my biggest fear is waking up and there being no change or the surgery having made me worse. I just wish I could see the future and know without a shadow of a doubt that this is the right thing to do.

Holy cow! I need to just get this waiting over with. The more time I sit here and wait, the more I have time to question it all. Let’s just get this surgery on already! Alright, well, I’ll talk t you from the other side!

P.S. I have my silver sparkly slippers on as well! They give me special magical powers and strength!